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While there is not an official government widows’ home, there are certainly a number of communities and facilities throughout the country that cater to retired military and their spouses. As an example, I know that right here in San Antonio we have Air Force Village, which caters to retirees of all branches of service. These self-contained military retirement communities serve retired military officers, their spouses, widows and widowers, affording them the opportunity to live among others with similar backgrounds. This is a continuing-care community, including assisted living, nursing care and some with Alzheimer’s care. So I would recommend broadening your search to include communities for retired military, including Continuing Care Retirement Communities (CCRCs), and see what you can find.